What to Say (and What Not to Say) When Discussing Faith with Muslims
A few years ago, a good friend of mine who was a natural evangelist was complaining about this Muslim family who was stubborn. I asked what happened and he pointed out how they don’t listen to any of his points, although he is making good theological points. I went with him to another gathering and i quickly saw the problem. It was not what you say, but how you say it that matters.
If you’re looking to share your faith with Muslim friends, here are some key things to say—and avoid—to foster genuine, respectful dialogue.
1. Start with Common Ground
Say: “I really respect how seriously you take your faith. I also believe in one God who is merciful and just.”
Finding shared beliefs is a powerful way to build trust. Muslims deeply value their relationship with God (Allah), prayer, and community. Recognizing these similarities creates a foundation for deeper discussions.
Don’t Say: “We don’t have much in common.”
This can shut down conversation immediately. Even if differences exist (and they do), focusing on common ground opens the door for mutual respect.
2. Be Curious, Not Confrontational
Say: “Can you tell me more about what you believe about Jesus? I’d love to understand better.”
Asking genuine, open-ended questions shows respect and interest. It’s about listening as much as sharing.
Don’t Say: “You’re wrong about Jesus.”
Statements like this can feel aggressive and dismissive. Instead, approach differences with humility and curiosity.
3. Use Stories, Not Arguments
Say: “Let me share how I experienced God’s love in my life…”
In Middle Eastern cultures, storytelling is a powerful tool. Sharing personal experiences of faith resonates more deeply than abstract arguments. Stories are less about winning a debate and more about connecting hearts.
Don’t Say: “Let me prove why Christianity is true.”
Debates can feel like battles, and most people aren’t looking for a fight. They’re looking for authenticity.
4. Speak of Jesus with Honor
Say: “I believe Jesus (Isa) is more than a prophet; He’s the Son of God and Savior.”
Muslims respect Jesus as a prophet. When you speak of Him, do so with reverence, acknowledging their view while sharing yours.
Don’t Say: “Islam doesn’t understand Jesus.”
Avoid dismissive language. It can come across as disrespectful, even if unintended.
5. Let the Holy Spirit Lead
Say: “I believe God guides us to truth. Would you be open to reading the Injil (Gospels) together?”
Inviting someone to explore scripture together is less confrontational and more of a shared journey. Trust that God works in hearts in His timing.
Don’t Say: “You need to convert right now.”
High-pressure tactics rarely lead to genuine faith. Remember, transformation is God’s work, not ours.
Final Thoughts
Talking about faith with Muslims isn’t about winning arguments; it’s about building relationships. Respect, curiosity, and love go a long way. Remember, every conversation is a seed planted. Some may sprout quickly, others may take years. But trust that God is at work.
I’ll never forget that night in Amman. I didn’t “win” the conversation, but I gained a deeper friendship—and over time, more opportunities to share my heart and my faith. Sometimes, that’s the most powerful testimony of all.
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