A few years ago, I was with a group of refugees on a Friday afternoon, right before the call to prayer. I still don’t remember how the conversation started but before I knew it, we were knee-deep in a theological debate about the Trinity. I quoted Scripture, Ahmed countered with the Qur’an. Back and forth we went, like two fencers sparring. But when the conversation ended, nothing had changed, except the tension between us.
Why Theological Arguments Backfire
If you’ve spent any time engaging with Muslims about faith, you’ve likely experienced something similar. Here’s the hard truth: arguing theology rarely leads to fruitful outcomes. Here’s why.
- Different Foundations: Christians and Muslims operate from different foundational texts and worldviews. While we lean on the Bible, they stand firm on the Qur’an. This makes theological debates feel like speaking two different languages.
- Honor and Respect: In Middle Eastern culture, public disagreement can be seen as disrespectful. A theological argument can easily be perceived as an attack on someone’s identity and family heritage.
- Defensiveness Over Openness: When people feel attacked, they’re more likely to defend their beliefs rather than reconsider them. Arguments often reinforce barriers instead of breaking them down.
So, What Works Better?
If arguing theology doesn’t work, what does? The answer is simple yet profound: relationship and story.
- Share Your Story: Personal testimonies carry a weight that arguments don’t. When I began sharing how Jesus transformed my life—the peace I found, the hope I cling to—Ahmed listened differently. Stories disarm defenses because they’re not up for debate.
- Ask Questions, Listen Well: Instead of lecturing, I started asking questions. “What does your faith mean to you?” “How do you experience God’s love?” Genuine curiosity builds trust and opens hearts.
- Live Out the Gospel: Actions often speak louder than words. Showing consistent love, hospitality, and grace demonstrates the heart of Christ more powerfully than any argument. Refugees told us in the past that “you Christians” have showed us love more than all of our Muslim community. This is so profound to gospel conversations.
- Pray and Rely on the Holy Spirit: Ultimately, it’s the Holy Spirit who softens hearts. Prayer isn’t just a backup plan; it’s the foundation of any effective witness.
A New Conversation with Ahmed
Months after our first heated debate, Ahmed and I sat down again. But this time, instead of diving into theological trenches, I simply shared how Jesus walked with me through a difficult season. Ahmed didn’t argue. He listened. He even shared some of his own struggles. Our relationship deepened, and the conversation about faith became an ongoing journey rather than a battleground.
Final Thoughts
If you’re passionate about sharing Jesus with Muslims, remember: it’s not about winning arguments. It’s about winning hearts. Let your life, your love, and your story speak louder than your theological points. Trust God to do the rest.
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